Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it." ~ Lou Holtz
We are all human, and as humans, we are very emotional beings. We act and speak according to our emotional state at the moment. Not only do we act out our emotions, we also take in and process information, with our emotions playing a major part in it. We have yet to master this phenomenon known as emotional intelligence.
Our lives are contolled by our emotions, because that is just in our nature. But what if we were able to turn the tables and control our emotions by using emotional intelligence? It's so easy to just let the emotions take us over, so that we don't have to take accountability for ourselves. We depend on psychiatrist and mood changing medications to fix a solution that we, ourselves, can provide the prescription for.
I am not, by any means, saying that it is an easy road, but it is one that we can travel. What we have to realize is the reality of the situation. Most of us equate stress as being what comes at us during our day or what happens, which is not true. Stress is not what happens to us, but how we react to what happens to us. It is all a mindset.
Let's look at it mathematically for example:
It is how you respond to the situation that determines the outcome. If you allow negative situations to overwhelm you or cause you stress, then it will cause a bigger problem physically, emotionally, and mentally. When you are overwhelmed and stressed it is more difficult to organize your thoughts to process a solution, and just makes the situation worse.
We don't think that a situation can always be worse. We can't change what happened, but we can fix what we are doing now. But we have to sit back and reflect. We need to analyze what is happening, what are the up's and downs, what needs to be changed or improved, what steps we need to take to alleviate the situation or implement it. Don't look at it as a whole, but break it down into parts. It will be easier to find a solution.
I want you to do an exercise. I want you to look back at your life. Look back at everything that has happened to you over your life; the ups and downs. Now just focus on the downs. How bad were those certain situations or circumstances? I'm pretty sure at those times you thought, "This is the worst?" But I bet, until this exercise you have not even thought of that situation or circumstance since it occurred. You know why? It passed and you got over it.
Everything that happened to us in the past has taught and trained us to deal with the situations we deal with today. Anything that happens to you today will be just like what happened to you in the past, you overcame it and it passed on. So to stress over a situation that will eventually pass will solve nothing. It will only cause you more problems.
We have to harness this emotional intelligence, in order to take control of our emotional responses. The first step is self-reflection. You need to take some time out for yourself and do a personal checklist of what you may need to change or improve about yourself. You cannot change external forces, but you are in control of your internal well-being. You can also join us on our Mindset Calls Mon-Fri. at 9am EST. You will be able to gain much benefit from listening in. Your success begins with you!